Podcast Episode 012: Be Free with Siobhan Sudberry

Hey Glowers!

In this episode, Life Coach and Blogger of the BeFree Project, Siobhan Sudberry talks to us about how getting laid off from work led her to pursue her dreams of running a successful coaching business and becoming a full-time blogger. She credits having helped so many women through coaching before she was laid off as the deciding factor to pursue it full-time, and how operating in her purpose even before she turned it into a business gave her perspective of what her gifts were … and that she needed to assist women in discovering their gifts as well.

 

Besides 1-on-1 coaching, Siobhan expands her platform to women by hosting her quarterly BeFree Life Classes, which are events where entrepreneurial women meet up to mastermind and learn and share life and business hacks. To purchase tickets to her next event, click here. She also shares coaching tips on her BeFree TV channel and through her blog. And she just recently launched her BeFree Life Workbook which helps women who feel stuck, unfulfilled and unmotivated jumpstart their journey to being free with affirmations, reflective questions and life coaching tips.

Listen to how Siobhan manages a business, a family, relationships with clients and her upcoming projects she’s working on.

To contact Siobhan, book her for coaching or to attend her events, click here or email her at Siobhan@BeFreeProject.com.

And to contact me, email me at Natasha@GoandGlowProject.com to schedule a marketing and branding consultation. And if you’re looking to expand your business with an at-home self-study learning kit, check out The Go and Glow Academy where I’ve launched an audio course + workbook companion that has marketing, branding, implementation and personal development strategies. And subscribe to my blog and newsletter at www.GoandGlowProject.com to get updates on events for The Go and Glow Project, to hear other inspiring women’s interviews like Siobhan’s, and to get information on the projects I’m launching.

Until the next episode,

GO AND GLOW!

XO,

Natasha Cole

Chief Glow-Getter

Goddess Rising

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Goddess RisingHi, Glowers! Or should I say Goddesses!

When I use to teach literature, I was in love with Greek mythology and the narratives of art, love, culture, war, passion, temptation, betrayal and the lessons in all of them. One of the most significant pieces of Greek literature (and my favorite) that happens to embody all of those themes in one story is The Odyssey by Homer. The Odyssey is about a man, Odysseus, who has to leave his family and his kingdom behind to fight in the Trojan War. And on his journey there and back, he encounters many obstacles and experiences that reveal his character, his strengths, his leadership, his weaknesses, his pride and his wit. Along his odyssey, we’re introduced to several gods, muses, creatures and goddesses who contribute to his revelations about himself.

After having read and taught this epic poem countless times, I grew to appreciate the themes of Greek literature and the roles of the goddesses. And I often found myself comparing my character, my strengths, my leadership, my weaknesses, my pride, my gifts, and my wit to that of Odysseus and obviously to the goddesses. I wanted to understand myself through these immortals. I was allured by the charm and the grace of the goddesses. I began to have revelations about myself through these stories and other epic tales in history. I wanted to know how far back could I transport myself into different historical time periods as a Greek goddess, an African queen, and a British royal. (Perhaps I’ll write a blog post about the latter two another time.)

So, I began to research the archetypes of a few Greek goddesses. Some questions I had for myself when I researched the archetypes were:

1. Who are you in the face of adversity?

2. What do you have to give to the world?

3. How do you nurture your relationships?

4. What’s your personal code of ethics?

5. Are you a peaceful person and do you leave people with a feeling of peace?

6. Are you artistic and creative?

7. Are you a powerful force in leadership settings? Does it come natural for you to lead others?

Those questions all had relevance to the themes of the narratives each of the goddesses appeared in. Once I was able to answer those questions I could identify more authentically with other powerful women – mortals and immortals. It was cool to read about other female warriors who had the same fortitude and ambition for life like me.

Knowing your personality type can help you to improve your personal relationship with yourself as well as with others, help you to understand your strengths and how to use them in your career, and how to harness your power, your beauty and your importance…as a woman…and as a Goddess Rising.

So, below is a list of goddesses with short descriptions about them, and I am challenging you to do a little research on the Goddess archetype that is a reflection of you. First, answer the 7 questions above, and then begin your research. Note that these goddesses have been curated from different Greek stories, not necessarily from The Odyssey.

1. Nike – Goddess of victory.

2. Eos – Goddess of the dawn who  brought hope to a brand new day.

3. Aphrodite – Goddess of love and beauty.

4. Athena – Goddess of war, wisdom, poetry and art.

5. Artemis – Goddess of hunting, nature, and birth.

6. Atalanta – Goddess of competition, adventure, and was an amazing runner!

7. Demeter – Goddess of harvesting, growing and preserving.

8. Dike – Goddess of moral justice.

9. Eirene – Goddess of peace.

10. Hera – Goddess of marriage.

11. Hygeia – Goddess of cleanliness, hygiene and good health.

So, what did you think? Leave some comments below and tell me which goddess are you and how her story resonates with your life?

I hope you were able to find this activity meaningful, and more importantly – I hope it can serve as a resource for your journey to empowerment and self-actualization.

Until the next blog post, Go and Glow!

xo, Natasha Cole

The Necklace

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necklaceHi, Glowers!

Have you ever read the short story, The Necklace, by French writer, Guy de Maupassant? If not, you must! I read this story about 10 years ago and it has impacted the way I think about appreciating what I have and being present and grateful in the moment for what is.

If you’ve found yourself always living in the past and constantly thinking about what you should’ve done with your life, or living in the future and imagining how awesome you’re going to be if you could just do that one thing, one day – then you will relate to The Necklace.

The story is set in Paris. The main character, Mathilde Loisel, is beautiful and charming but has taken to a pessimistic outlook on life, blaming her lackluster social status on being born into a poor family and marrying a man of average means. She’s never happy with what she has. She sits around her home and wishes she had velvet drapes and royal linens and fine China to serve her guests, who she imagines in her head to be rich and famous. She yearns for status and nobility. She complains to her hard-working husband that what he provides for her isn’t enough.

One day her husband comes home excited that they’ve been invited to a gala among the noble and elite and he thinks this will make his wife happy. To his surprise, she is saddened by the notion of not having anything respectable to wear. He offers to use the money he had saved to buy a hunting rifle in exchange to buy her a beautiful dress. He buys her the dress, and yet again – she is not happy. She does not have any jewels to wear. So, he suggests wearing flowers. But of course that isn’t enough for her.

Per his suggestion, she asks her dear and wealthy friend, Madame Forestier, if she can borrow a necklace for the event. Her friend obliges. Mathilde is ecstatic! She has the complete wardrobe fitting for a woman of status. She and her husband attend the party and she dances all night and networks with the most amazing people. For just a short moment she had forgotten about her real life. She had morphed into the woman she was in her fantasies. She was graceful and respected and admired.

The night ended with her husband sleeping in another room while she danced and laughed. When it was time to go he cloaked her in a shabby wrap to keep her warm, but she was embarrased because it was an indicator to others of their poverty. For that reason, she ran outside to quickly jump in a taxi with him.

When they arrived home, she took off the wrap and the beautiful diamond necklace was missing from her neck! She panicked. Her husband went back out and traced all of their footsteps but didn’t find the necklace. For an entire week, they scoured the city looking for it – but to no avail. They knew they had to replace the necklace so they visited jewelers around the city looking for a close match. They found a necklace that was priced at 36,000 francs ($40,000 today). Mathilde returned the replacement necklace to her friend hoping she wouldn’t open the jewelry case and notice the change. Madame Forestier was annoyed that she kept it for longer than promised; however, she never opened the case in front of Mathilde.

For 10 years the Loisels worked multiple jobs to pay off the debt from the loans and interest of the necklace. They had to move out of their home into a smaller apartment. Mathilde had to do all of the heavy work around the house since they dismissed the servants. Because of the hardship and manual labor, Mathilde’s extraordinary beauty had faded and she appeared to look old and irrevocably damaged. She was no longer the beautiful and charming woman she had once been.

One day she was walking in the park and she saw her dear friend, Madame Forestier. She had not seen her in 10 years. Mathilde walked up to her to say hello. Her friend was startled by her appearance and didn’t recognize her. Mathilde had to tell her who she was. Her friend was appaulled. She didn’t understand why her beauty had drastically changed and why she was so wretched and old.

Mathilde decided to tell her the truth about the necklace. She decided to confess her dishonesty. She explained that because she had to pay for the replacement necklace her life took a turn for the worst. Mathilde recounts how terrible the last 10 years of her life had been paying back the enormous debt on the expensive diamond necklace.

 

{Spoiler Alert: don’t read below if you plan to read the story for yourself}

It was then that Madame Forestier grabbed her dear friend’s hand and said, “My poor, poor Mathilde. That necklace was a fake. It was only worth 500 francs!” ($555).

The necklace was costume jewelry. It meant nothing to her. In fact, she never opened the case when it was returned because it was worthless.

Ahhh! Can you believe that? The anguish. The hard, manual labor. The life Mathilde once had (which she thought was not good enough) was gone. The power of deception and wanting to appear wealthy became the demise of her life. There are several instances of irony of not appreciating the decent life that she had and the appearance of being wealthy when she was actually wearing a fake diamond necklace. And the fact that her best friend was regarded as a wealthy person, when in fact, she had managed to live a life of deceit with fake jewelry that appeared real.

I think we can all learn a lesson here. We can see how by not appreciating your life and by not being grateful you can manifest the very things you didn’t want in your life.

My request is that you take 5 minutes each day and write down 5 things you’re grateful for. Just make a gratitude journal or notebook and everyday jot down the 5 things you appreciate, including people, experiences, blessings, things and feelings. Acknowledge what you have in that very moment –  for that day –  that gave you some peace.

 

 

 

Taking the Road Less Traveled

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Hi, Glowers!

We’ve all read the poem “The Road Not Taken” by Robert Frost. We understand the irony of a man who has come to a fork-in-the-road and needs to make a decision whether to go down a beaten path or take the road less traveled with unknown certainties.

How does this classic piece of literature apply to our lives now? Simple. Every day we’re faced with decisions that will (in either minor or major ways) affect our lives. Should we stay with our companies that we’ve been working for for the last 5 years or should we take that new job offer that sounds relatively interesting? But the thought of letting go of the familiarity of your coworkers and Jeans Fridays and the holiday parties scares you.

Or how about that boyfriend who you’ve been with for 3 years and who knows your family well and understands your mood swings and favorites of pretty much everything –  to trying someone new who isn’t verbally abusive to you and who has goals he’s trying to accomplish.

What about that opportunity to move to LA to pursue that acting career? I guess you could put it off for one more year to continue working to pay down some student loan debt.

Ahhh! You will NEVER take the road less traveled if you continue to play it safe or be stagnant and unimaginative. God wants you to take risks. He wants you to trust Him. He wants to see how adventurous you can be and in return give Him all the glory for when things DO actually work out! …because they will.

You’ve just got to understand that what you want to happen, you have to create. But you also have to understand that what you want will be something that our eyes cannot see. It’s only something the mind can conceptualize. You dont actually see it until you’ve taken a few steps to get closer to it. Whatever that IT is.

More importantly, God wants you to start trusting yourself more. You can’t and shouldn’t rely on man, but you should get still and be quiet for a while and understand that God is inside of you and you have to listen to hear His voice. And His voice will guide you.

It’s like when a plane is having a little turbulence – everyone gets quiet to listen to the pilot or flight attendant’s instructions or announcement. You have to understand that whatever new decision you’re thinking about making has to absolutely be aligned with God’s purpose and plan for you. And once you verify that – there’s no reason to wait or put a halt to what is destined for you.

The reason that road is LESS TRAVELED is because there are more people who give up on their dreams and the dedication it takes to out-work someone else and sacrifice time. That path is less traveled because most people want to fit in and live in the ordinary and safe cocoon of a fixed schedule of working, coming home to watch tv and then do it all over again the next day.

Most people just enjoy the idea of having a dream and telling people about it but never committing to it or executing it. And almost majority of people LOVE to watch other people go after their dreams so that they can sit back and be the critic and judge how awful they executed their SAME EXACT dream.

My challenge to you is to take that road less traveled. Leave that job for the new one. Break-up with that lazy, uninspired boyfriend and get with the one who has some goals. Move to LA or even out of the country and go implant yourself in a new environment! Go after what you can’t see…because it’s there and it’ll show up eventually. You have to believe in magic. You have to believe in yourself and you have to believe in God.

I hope you have an abundance of love and light in your life.

Until the next blog post, GO AND GLOW!

xo, Natasha